And this is the story of my personal journey.
Just like you, I am a Millennial, but also a Digital Marketing Consultant with 7+ years of experience, who has been living abroad for the past 5 years and only recently returned to my hometown, Bucharest, Romania.
2018 was a milestone year for me – I’ve decided not only to leave Bratislava, Slovakia (my home for many years) but also start (again) from scratch professionally. After months of applying to jobs and going to many interviews, but also after building 7 business plans and didn’t go through with any of them, I’ve started to ask myself hard questions:
- Who are you? What do you REALLY want?
- What it is that is MOTIVATING you? The one thing that really moves you inside?
- What do you want to FOCUS ON for the next few years?
- Is a job from 9-to-5 still FULFILLING for you?
Even though they look so simple, they are very hard questions; they are the base of our happiness and the answers never come easy. In my case, the answer came one day when I’ve decided to apply for a marketing position at a local NGO, without even thinking about the salary. The second I’ve told myself ‘I would go to these guys even for free!’, I’ve realized I had a breakthrough. ‘Ok, so it’s not money I am looking for. Then what do I want?’. After more drilling, it hit me: what I needed was a job with a higher purpose, one that would bring me something I’ve never had before at a job: MEANING. I was looking for meaning in my life.
This thought right there was a big realization for me and just like that, I’ve decided I needed to go on on this path. Suddenly, it was all so clear to me: I wanted to help people become overcome their biggest life and career challenges and to become their best self to reach their goals and dreams.
I had a few challenges in life myself, so I know exactly how hard it is to feel blocked/stuck, not knowing what to do next, to feel confused about your future, to deal with anxiety, to have a quarter-life crisis, to lose your boyfriend, your best friend, and your apartment and to start a new job – all in the same month, to reinvent yourself while moving abroad, to struggle with toxic relationships in your life (be it partner, manager or friends), to get fired but also land your dream job, to become a freelancer and then an entrepreneur. So, yeah, I know exactly how all of these feel and I want to make it easier for you, so you don’t have to go through them the hard way.
I was always passionate about Personal Development, Emotional Intelligence, Self-awareness, and Leadership. I’ve always had a curious mind and searched for answers about our human behavior, the connection between people and what drives us forward.
So, last year I’ve decided to enroll in a coaching school (still going through it), changed my career direction and decided to take a big leap of faith and become a
Life and Career Coach.
I now help people live their most authentic life. We live your most authentic self when what we think, what we say and what we do are aligned.
So, how can I help you become your best self?
I help people understand their emotions, face their fears and get past their blockages to reach their full life potential – in relationships and at work – through Emotional Intelligence, NLP, coaching, psychology, mentoring and consulting tools.
We sit together with your challenge and situation and I am holding the space for you while guiding you (more like a platform or a mirror) to find the answers and resources that you need, creating a plan but also keeping you accountable for it.
I hold your hand through the entire process without offering my ideas and solutions to you, but by helping you reach your aha moments and breakthroughs, so that the personal development journey is specific, personal, unique, powerful and transformational to YOU.
What is Emotional Intelligence (EQ)?
Emotional Intelligence has become more and more of a study field on its own and at the base of it is, you guessed it – Emotions. The capacity to be aware of our thoughts and emotions, the ability to regulate emotional responses like strong negative feelings of fear, anger, shame, guilt and how to recognize & interpret emotions in others around us and to respond in a healthy way (assertive communication) is the base of our existence. Humans are rational beings, but also more emotional than we might admit (we make decisions with our emotional side, not rational) and our success in life and the capacity to develop healthy relationships with your parents, friends, partner, your boss, and colleagues is crucially connected to how to handle emotions: our own and of others.
A high IQ is not a guarantee of success, prosperity, prestige or happiness in life. Tests show that if we take two people with the same IQ level – the one who masters his emotional intelligence (EQ) better is the one who will reach more success in life and will create healthy relationships to reach that happiness.
All of us are looking for success in life at any given moment in time (be it a business/work, love and family life, financial, health, social life, etc), but as we already know, success doesn’t come easy. We need to work for it: get that promotion, scale that business, find the right partner and get married, have enough money to support ourselves, go to the gym and get that summer-body, start eating more healthy, have an active social life, be appreciated and travel to see the world.
Success / Happiness / Fulfillment is met when all of our needs are met simultaneously: we feel whole when none of our needs is frustrated and we feel unhappy when one of them is unbalanced.
Our 6 Basic Human Needs
The first four of the six core needs are defined as the needs of the personality or achievement and to live a fulfilling life one must have all of his needs satisfied at the same time. They are Certainty, Variety, Significance, Love and Connection.
The final two needs are defined as the needs of the spirit and provide the structure for fulfillment and happiness. The needs of the spirit or the higher self and they are Growth and Contribution.
If any of them is out of place, be it too much or too low, then our whole wellbeing is disrupted. If ignored, repressed or denied, frustration will appear and reappear and will eventually lead to forming new limiting beliefs and values which will further prevent us from being happy and at ease. It’s like a vicious circle.
Taking a more practical example – think about a situation where someone wants to open their own business and leave the corporate world (need of growth), but they are constantly hitting a wall of doubt, fear of failure, anxiety about losing their savings (need of certainty). They really do want to grow their own business and they are thinking about it for years, but still cannot bring themselves to do it. (By the way, I was this person several years ago.)
There are several limiting beliefs there that stop this person from achieving want they want and until they address them, the same vicious circle will have a say in their life on and on.
Without the correct tools and techniques to properly address them, these beliefs have the power to create a general discomfort in our lives, a feeling of dissatisfaction, lack of motivation, blockage, the feeling of ‘this happens only to me’, ‘I am so unlucky’, ‘I know it’s my fault’, ‘I wish I was ..’, ‘when I’ll do ___ that, only then I’ll have ___that’. These feelings only add up and have a great impact on how we think and take action in our lives. They block us from growth and personal achievement.
Knowing which of your needs are suffering brings us one step closer to understanding where we’re at right now and what can be done to get where we want to be.
Together we can explore this and I can help you get more clarity on your situation through guided intervention and help go you through your self-discovery journey to reach your life goals and career objectives.
What qualifies me as a Coach?
Well, that is indeed a good question. Glad you’ve read it all up to this point. I am currently involved in the below educational activities :
1. Two intensive NLP trainings on Coaching with NLP methodology (combined 54 training hours) at Mindmaster Training Center, Bucharest/ Romania.
2. Taking online Coaching School Program through Achology Academy, THE ACADEMY OF MODERN, APPLIED PSYCHOLOGY, UK
3. Certified Personal Develoment Coach – @ Confident Training Business Center, Bucharest – Romania. The diploma is certified by our local Government and ANC Committee and recognized at European level.
4.Certified Career Counselor – @ Confident Training Business Center, Bucharest – Romania. The diploma is certified by our local Government and ANC Committee and recognized at European level.
5. Weekly peer to peer coaching sessions with 2 other coaches where we develop and train new coaching skills for ongoing development.
6. Mentorship – happy to have had (from February to September 2019) Andrei Rosca (Entrepreneur for 10+ years and Change strategist for the last 4+ years) having a mentor/coach of my own to help me through this experience and help me move in the right direction.
Totally recommend Andrei’s podcast ‘Zero plus’ – it’s a podcast about clarity, change management and taking action. Meaning how to be the best version of ourselves, everyday.
7. Ongoing Psychotherapy and Personal Development for the last 5 years of my life – before being a catalyst for change, as coaches we need to do our inner work first, work on our issues first, go through the healing process and get emotionally stable, so we can create and hold a healthy and safe place for our clients to manifest their emotions and deep work.
8. Constantly improving myself through learning and education: training, workshops, going to conferences and events, reading books every day, articles / listening to podcasts – all about coaching methodology, psychology, therapy, NLP, CBT, REBT, neuroscience, mindfulness, personal development, emotional intelligence, and many other connected subjects like sociology and anthropology.
I can be, not just your Coach (a professional person who helps you identify your fears, blockages, helps you make the necessary changes to overcome them and to set new life objectives) but also a Coach who understands what you’re going through at every level (physically, mentally, spiritually).
If I am the right coach for you – there’s only on way yo find out and that is by scheduling a call or a meeting with me.
First session is FREE of charge and it’ll be my pleasure to get to know you.
If this sounds interesting or I’ve hit a cord [hopefully 🙂 ] – write me, even if it’s just to say hi or ask me a question.
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